"before you can be a spiritual leader, you must be spiritually led."
for, "whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. he must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it."
1 peter 3:10-11
and now i will show you the most excellent way. if i speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, i am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, i am nothing. if i give all i possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, i gain nothing.
1 corinthians 12:31b-13:3
so maybe we should rethink the motives behind our actions. if we have not love, we have nothing at all.